Hey LifeStyler, 

At some point in life usually, mid-life, late at night, or usually while scrolling the question appears:

What am I actually meant to be doing?

It doesn’t arrive with fireworks or clarity. It arrives as a dull ache. A feeling that you’re busy but not fulfilled. Productive, but not aligned. You might be doing all the seeming to be right things working hard, showing up, paying the bills yet still feel like something’s missing. And here’s the truth most people won’t say out loud: finding your purpose isn’t a moment it’s a process.

The Pressure to Know

We live in a world obsessed with purpose. Social media is full of people who appear to have it all figured out: the dream job, the passion project, the perfectly branded life. Everyone seems to know their calling and if you don’t, it can feel like you’re behind.

But purpose doesn’t usually reveal itself early, loudly, or neatly. For most people, it shows up quietly, in fragments, over time. Not knowing your purpose doesn’t mean you’re lost.
It means you’re paying attention.

Purpose Isn’t Always a Job Title

One of the biggest myths around purpose is that it has to be your career.

Purpose can be:

The way you make people feel

The problems you’re drawn to solving

The spaces you create for others

The energy you bring into a room

The stories you’re here to tell

Some people live their purpose through their work. Others live it through creativity, caregiving, community, or simply how they move through the world. You don’t need a business card to validate your reason for being here.

When You Feel Stuck

Feeling stuck is often the starting point, not the failure point.

It usually means one of two things:

You’ve outgrown an old version of yourself

You’re ready for something new even if you don’t know what yet

That restless feeling? It’s information. It’s your inner compass recalibrating. Instead of asking What’s my purpose?, try softer questions:

What drains me lately?

What lights me up, even briefly?

What do I keep coming back to, no matter how many times I ignore it?

What feels meaningful, not impressive?

Purpose often hides in patterns.

You Don’t Find Purpose You Build It

Purpose isn’t something you stumble across fully formed. It’s something you create through action. Trying things. Quitting things. Changing your mind. Starting again. Every experience even the wrong ones gives you data. Every detour teaches you something about what matters to you and what doesn’t. You don’t need certainty to begin, You just need curiosity.

Comparison Will Blur Your Vision

One of the biggest blockers to finding your purpose is comparing your timeline to someone else’s.

Someone else’s clarity doesn’t mean you’re failing.
Someone else’s success doesn’t cancel your potential.

Your purpose is personal. It won’t always make sense to others and that’s often how you know it’s real. Mute the noise when you need to. Purpose needs space to breathe.

Small Clues Matter

Purpose doesn’t always announce itself as a grand calling. Sometimes it shows up as:

A conversation that stays with you

A topic you can’t stop researching

A skill people naturally come to you for

A cause that makes you feel protective

A moment where time disappears

Pay attention to what you’d do even if no one clapped.

It’s Okay If You’re Still Searching

If you’re reading this and thinking I still have no idea you’re not behind. You’re human.

Some people don’t feel aligned until their 30s, 40s, or later. Some people have multiple purposes across different chapters of life. Some people reinvent themselves entirely.

Purpose evolves as you do.

You’re allowed to change.
You’re allowed to pivot. (Yes Ross Pivot!, Pivot! If you know you know.)
You’re allowed to not have all the answers yet.

Trust the Process (Even When It’s Messy)

Trying to find your purpose can feel uncomfortable, lonely, and frustrating but it’s also a sign that you care about living a meaningful life.

And that matters.

You don’t need to rush the answer.
You need to keep listening.

Sometimes the purpose isn’t to arrive it’s to keep becoming.

With Love,